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Secrets

I know everyone here by now knows about the PostSecret blog, so I'll spare you any history.

I will just say that this card is haunting me. I saw it while surfing random blogs, and discovered it along with the poster who it too is haunting.

The thought that this is the truth. That someone has chosen an entirely new identity.

To think that it is even possible. And that someone had the bravery to do it.

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mhgagnon
Jul. 14th, 2005 06:09 pm (UTC)
I love the idea that someone possibly did this. It lets in all sorts of feelings from discomfort to fascination to sexiness (think James Bond fantasy type stuff).

Also, as soon as I read your entry, a question popped into my head (looking at a couple different sides..) ...what if someone just wanted to mess with the readers and it's not true?

Mindfuck turns me on as well.

But that postsecret leads me to a question...
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fortryll
Jul. 14th, 2005 06:20 pm (UTC)
While the lure of gaining a new identity is very seductive...I can't help but think that there are people out there that are really missing this person, grieving their loss, crying in the middle of the night, and all because this person wanted to walk away from it all without a care.
redhead_sue
Jul. 14th, 2005 06:42 pm (UTC)
That was exactly my thought. The postcard definitely is haunting -- not just the statement, but the beautiful way it's laid out, complete with the image from 9/11 in sepia tones. But I have a hard time thinking of it as "bravery" to walk away from your life. Tempting, maybe, to leave all responsibilities and obligations behind. But to leave people who may love you behind, to let them grieve while you move on and start over? That's what haunts me.
fortryll
Jul. 14th, 2005 06:55 pm (UTC)
*nods*

And you know, at the worst times in my life, that is what I come back to - if I were to be gone (whether by running away, or by suicide), there are at least one or two people who would be terribly hurt by my actions - and I cannot bring myself to put those people through that much pain. It's just....selfish, I guess. I can't necessarily blame anyone else who chooses one of those options, but I do terribly feel for the people left behind.
angel320
Jul. 14th, 2005 07:34 pm (UTC)
Yes...and there have been times the thought was TOO tempting....but, I cannot leave my husband or my child - I grieve for those who could not - at their darkest, most private moments - find other options or someone to get them thru...there are always options....
ciani
Jul. 14th, 2005 06:22 pm (UTC)
While I'm not sure if it is true of the person who sent in that postcard, I will guess that at least one if not more people did do this. How many times do you hear about people being found living a new life after being missing for decades or whatever? I'm sure there were people who were unhappy and really wanted a way out, saw that as a viable option, and took it.
lachesis
Jul. 19th, 2005 09:44 pm (UTC)
(yeah, I'm just getting to this now. sue me. :))
I know someone that did this very thing, with help from a family member.
I know his "original" name, and his life now, and wonder if his family knows the truth. But that's for him to tell, not me.

And, I'd do it. In a second.
But the thing to remember is, there's almost always *someone* out there who knows the truth.
lachesis
Jul. 19th, 2005 09:45 pm (UTC)
er, I should clarify, he didnt do it as a result of Sept. 11th. This was way way before that.
nyssimi
Jul. 14th, 2005 06:36 pm (UTC)
It does make me wonder. It seems like it would be difficult to do without a lot of pre-planning and stashing away money. I'm sure it is possible but man, it would be difficult.

I knew someone in an on line community who's brother was in NYC for a business meeting at WTC. but the meeting wasn't untill 11 AM (or was it 1 PM)? Anyhow, they have no idea what happened to him, where exactly he was, only that his things were still in the hotel room and he hasn't been seen or heard from since. I wonder if he was the one to just walk away? *shiver* It is weird and disturbing to think about.
regyt
Jul. 14th, 2005 06:51 pm (UTC)
I actually think it's amazing. It makes me think of the bit in Last Samurai by Helen DeWitt (totally unrelated to the movie) where the kid says to the guy that before you actually try to commit suicide, you should change your job, change your wife, change your home. Or something like that. It's terrible, because of the people this person may have left behind to hurt because of him. But amazing, too, because there are so many people whom I wish could realize that they have this sort of freedom even with a 9/11.
professorbird
Jul. 14th, 2005 06:54 pm (UTC)
You know, when I read the words the only thing that came to my mind was:
The U.S. Constitution

guess I'm just an old hippie at heart.
passionandsoul
Jul. 14th, 2005 07:15 pm (UTC)
strangely, thats not how I interpreted the card at all.
I looked at the quote and remembered looking into the eyes of folks who'd lost folks that day... that they were dead inside. They may not have died that day, but their hope did, their love did, etc...
emeraldliz
Jul. 14th, 2005 07:46 pm (UTC)
I think we can easily imagine situations where it would be best for a person to walk away, take an opportunity to disappear.

Hurtful in some ways to people who loved the person, yes. But perhaps still better in the end for everyone.

My father chose to not have therapy when he was diagnosed with cancer, I think it was the right choice for himself and for us.
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diabhol
Jul. 15th, 2005 03:14 am (UTC)
Two Words:
Totally awesome.
auralchick
Jul. 15th, 2005 10:37 pm (UTC)
What I find most amazing is that this person chose to announce this fact for everyone who frequents PostSecret to know. It isn't just one family grieving for someone they think is lost, now there are potentially thousands of family members who have to wonder if this is their lost one. . . . . it seems a deliberately cruel thing to do.
summerdiscord
Jul. 17th, 2005 08:53 pm (UTC)
"Life is half spent before we know what it is." -George Herbert
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