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While I was away...

I'm home from IML, and I have lots of stories to tell.

But first, while I was away, a rifle shot was heard from San Francisco. Transgender acceptance vs. one of the most regaled SM/leather clubs worldwide, the Chicago Hellfire Club.

Read the amazing article published in the Bay Area Reporter here.

This very issue is a major reason why I am probably going to Delta this year, and not CHC's annual Inferno event.

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viviane212
May. 29th, 2007 04:50 am (UTC)
Welcome back. And thanks for that story - I've linked to it.
thornyc
May. 29th, 2007 04:57 am (UTC)

major reason why I am probably going to Delta this year, and not CHC's annual Inferno

Good for you.

My friend Pud/stivalineri has responded on the subject here, http://stivalineri.livejournal.com/14727.html, which you should read, and
which has already engendered (tee-hee) an interesting discussion.

He also reposted it to this group blog here, http://nextguard.blogspot.com/, which you should not only be reading but contributing to. You can get a feed of this blog directly onto your LJ Friends page here, http://syndicated.livejournal.com/nextguard/.

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qnetter
May. 29th, 2007 05:09 am (UTC)
No, actually, if enough people take a similar stand, things are least likely to change, in my opinion. Instead, they will always be able to find a core of guys who subscribe to their definitions and attitudes, and with nobody to challenge them, they'll go on for at least another decade or two.
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raindog469
May. 29th, 2007 12:57 pm (UTC)
Well, duh
Obviously a guy who likes girl parts is going to go to the event that allows men with girl parts.

If you don't object to events that are all-male or all-female, I don't know why you'd object to an event that's all-XX (of which there are many) or all-XY.
boundfate
May. 29th, 2007 01:35 pm (UTC)
Re: Well, duh
IAWTC.

If a club is limiting to only men or only women, I don't see how it is extra discriminatory to say that only male-bits or only female bits are allowed. From what I got out of the article they aren't even saying only XY, they are simply saying that transmen must have went through surgery and have boy bits to attend. That makes lots of sense to me for a male-only sex club, just as it would make equal sense to only allow female parts at an all girl event.
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boymeat
May. 29th, 2007 01:36 pm (UTC)
Re: Well, duh
The point is that gender goes beyond parts.

Yes, I like women. And I also like men. Thus my dirty "bisexual" branding.

That being said, I went to Inferno a few years ago, and had an amazing time. I would just like to go to an all-men's run with a few more of my male friends. Unfortunately, they can't go to Inferno.
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reddywhp
May. 29th, 2007 01:32 pm (UTC)
In the article, I find it hypocritical that Billy Lane asks for no last name to be listed in the article, but has no problem specifically mentioning Brent's last name.

You're right though, that if someone does not like the CHC policy on FTM, there's another major BD/SM event that has a more open membership and guest policy within a week of CHC's major annual event. If one vendor doesn't supply what you're looking for and there's another one around the corner, go to the one that has what you want.
boymeat
May. 29th, 2007 01:37 pm (UTC)
I wish it was that simple, Reddy. I'll have another post about this today.
qnetter
May. 29th, 2007 01:55 pm (UTC)
In the article, I find it hypocritical that Billy Lane asks for no last name to be listed in the article, but has no problem specifically mentioning Brent's last name.


Hypocritical on whose part? Billy's? Yeah, probably, though there is the fact that he may not be out at work, which is his right. The reporter's? By extension, that's like saying if one source is anonymous, all sources should be. And that's just bad journalism. Billy asked that his last name not be used; Brent did not. That's the way the profession is practiced.

And how you feel about the source of an argument is really irrelevant to what's being said.

If you didn't like the war in Viet Nam, you could have gone to Canada. We probably should still be doing that, too. This is a moral issue, not a marketplace issue. You can't apply a morality-blind free-market approach to everything.
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gearjock
May. 29th, 2007 01:34 pm (UTC)
This very issue is a major reason why I am probably going to Delta this year, and not CHC's annual Inferno event.

Thats the great thing about this. If one group doesn't cater to your political desires, there are other options....
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gearjock
May. 29th, 2007 03:08 pm (UTC)
No, I think you pretty much fall in with the majority of folks looking at this.
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trouble841
May. 29th, 2007 07:21 pm (UTC)
As I read this, I can’t say that really know how to react. Part of me is horrified that a group would take such pains to blatantly exclude a group of people… part of me, just expects that. As a genderqueer person who is pretty consistently and constantly moving on the F – M continuum (definitely more on the F side these days), I have had major issues in gay male spaces. For example, 3 years ago at IML, I was not-so-politely asked to leave the Chicago Eagle (by a random moron, not someone who worked at the club as far as I know) because I lacked the proper equipment. It stung, and hurt for a long time. At that point, I was definitely more M than F. But you know what? I've almost completely stopped talking about my gender issues, because they cause me so much pain, and I feel like I'm having to constantly justify anything/everything I do/wear/spell/etc. I just want to be *me* - not have to make some kind of 'statement' or say that I belong to X group and feel X way about a particular issue. (For example, as a lesbian, I should be for new hate crime legislation, right? I'm on the fence, but because I'm a "part of that group", I am automatically assumed to have certain associations and beliefs.

I have mixed opinions about forcing groups to be all-inclusive, or to requiring them to change their definitions. This isn’t just a problem in the men’s community – women’s only groups have ever-changing definitions of who they allow into their spaces as well. (And for me, if someone identifies as a transman, I don’t understand why they are fighting to get/stay in a women’s group/space – and I don’t even like that about myself, that I feel that way… but I do.)

As a Great Lakes title holder I was told that I should be at all of our local club’s bar nights. I was the only bio-woman there many nights – unless I brought rabbit with me. Do you know what I did on those nights? Mostly, I worked the doors or watched rabbit, if she was going to do boots. I was not welcomed into the community, and after that year as a titleholder was finished, I came to a peaceful conclusion for myself: I am not going to fight my way into a group that doesn’t want me to be a part of it. I never felt entirely welcome, and I doubt that I ever would. Yet the organizers didn’t seem to mind putting me to work.

Last night, I drove home from IML with someone who had never been before. As a straight sub man, collared to his Mistress/wife, he was worried about how the gay men might react to him being a vendor. He said he felt totally welcomed and comfortable, and couldn’t stop gushing about how welcoming and “open and accepting” gay men are to “all”. I was so happy that he had a good time, and that his first experience was positive – because it means that he will likely come back. But I felt like I had to caution him that IML – especially the Leather Market – really is open to everyone, regardless of orientation or gender – but, if he were doing something other than vending/going to the contest, he might have had some different experiences. And not all events are like IML.
adorable_man
May. 29th, 2007 08:30 pm (UTC)
Thanks for being a trans ally! I always think (perhaps erronenously, I don't know...) that non-trans people advocating for trans inclusiveness carry more weight. Perhaps it's the psychological phenomenon about being able to hear or understand a new concept from someone you think is "like you". Trans people are so often seen as "other". I think that's the cause of the non-trans policies some organizations have. I mean, it can't be about penises. That's absurd. I have a penis and I have photos to prove it!

Thank you again. Your voice means so much to so many.
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