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Change in quotation. An exercise.

Very often a change of self is needed more than a change of scene.
~ Arthur Christopher Benson~

When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.
~Tuli Kupferberg~

It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.
~Charles Darwin~

Life is always at some turning point.
~Irwin Edman~

The one unchangeable certainty is that nothing is certain or unchangeable.
~John F. Kennedy~

To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly.
~Henri Bergson~

Change is the watchword of progression. When we tire of well-worn ways, we seek for new. This restless craving in the souls of men spurs them to climb, and to seek the mountain view.
~Ella Wheeler Wilcox~

I've never met a person, I don't care what his condition, in whom I could not see possibilities. I don't care how much a man may consider himself a failure, I believe in him, for he can change the thing that is wrong in his life anytime he is prepared and ready to do it. Whenever he develops the desire, he can take away from his life the thing that is defeating it. The capacity for reformation and change lies within.
~Preston Bradley~

Readjusting is a painful process, but most of us need it at one time or another.
~Arthur Christopher Benson~

There have been so many wise words spoken about change. The fear of change, accepting change... how change is that magical property that transforms us from beasts to true human beings. That accepting change is the hallmark of a good person.

I guess I'm not a good person. I handle change worse than I handle migraines. It freezes me, it depresses me... it takes me out of my comfort zone to such a strong point that I don't know how to adapt... how to accept the new paradigm in my life... I don't know how to make myself happy with what I have. I only focus on what has changed.

Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts.
~Arnold Bennett~

Ah, yes Arnold... that is right. And getting over this discomfort is my biggest battle right now. I can only hope that when the smoke of the battle within myself begins to clear... there is actually something left for the victor.

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katestine
Sep. 6th, 2007 01:07 pm (UTC)
This is my favorite quote on change
"When one door closes another door opens; but we often look so longingly and regretfully upon the closed door that we don't notice the ones that have opened for us" -Alexander Graham Bell

boymeat
Sep. 6th, 2007 01:10 pm (UTC)
Re: This is my favorite quote on change
That is exactly what I am doing. So much so that I can't even see the opening doors.
contessagrrl
Sep. 6th, 2007 01:08 pm (UTC)
One of my favorites...
It is a secret both in nature and state, that it is safer to change many things than one.

- Sir Francis Bacon


You are a good person, and I love you.
boymeat
Sep. 6th, 2007 01:18 pm (UTC)
Re: One of my favorites...
Does Sir Bacon want me dead??? ;-)
eric_mathgeek
Sep. 6th, 2007 01:12 pm (UTC)
*HUGS*
drukwerk
Sep. 6th, 2007 01:42 pm (UTC)
if you need a shoulder, i've got one.
viviane212
Sep. 6th, 2007 02:30 pm (UTC)
Oh, honey.

It's ok to hibernate and suffer. Maybe in a way, it's a sort of mourning. You will get through this. hugs.
redhead_sue
Sep. 6th, 2007 02:55 pm (UTC)
You're not a bad person because you have trouble with change, so just stop that kind of talk right now. I spent five years in therapy, largely dealing with my troubles with change. I don't think I'm a bad person. I just think I'm someone who reacts very strongly - panic, anxiety, depression (sound familiar?) - to changes in my life. And therapy taught me that I may never be able to change that about myself. I won't magically become someone who handles change beautifully, who even seeks it out. But I can become someone who learns how to deal with my reaction to change better. And that's what I see you doing - looking for ways to deal with it. You're journaling, you're searching for quotes, you're seeking support from friends. You're finding ways to deal. So I think you're doing great - you're dealing with it by seeking out comfort, and if that's what you need to do, then do it. If you want to hide, go ahead. And if you want friends to talk to or just hang out with, we're here.
lolitasir
Sep. 6th, 2007 03:06 pm (UTC)
Next exercise:
Return phone calls
boymeat
Sep. 6th, 2007 03:24 pm (UTC)
Re: Next exercise:
I was at the hospital visiting my dad. When I got home I basically melted down. I'll call you today.
divalano
Sep. 6th, 2007 03:15 pm (UTC)
Oh my. You have no idea how perfectly spot on this entry is for me today. I feel like the universe just tapped me on the shoulder via your LJ. Wow.

I resist chnnge. It's my nature. I also know that embracing change is a much better way to live. Sometimes I make the adjustment easily, sometimes I struggle. In hindsight I can tell you that the most wrenching changes in my past 15 yrs, loss of love relationships, loss of employment ... have all opened doors to much better opportunities, experiences, relationships, etc. The new that came in always fit me better than the old that went out.

Mind you, knowing this seldom makes it easier. Some changes are hard & require all the phases of grieving that Kubla Ross enumerated. Hang in. Rant when necessary ;)
graydancer
Sep. 6th, 2007 04:17 pm (UTC)
...and listen to divalano...
It was a long conversation at a bar at the SEAF with Delano that helped me get through the drastic change that started 8 months ago and led, unexpectedly but irrevocably, to me posting this to your journal right now (Hi, by the way, niceta meetcha, heard nothing but great things about you, love the boots).

I don't have many words of wisdom, except to commiserate - if you're like me, you can accept that yeah, every door that closes another opens, blahblahblah, but these things don't really matter, because you're just not interested in those new doors. And even now, when the change has given me incontrovertibly amazingly wonderful doors to peek in...I still have days like today, when I just wish for the life I knew, because I knew it.

Strength, brother. And peace.
melebeth
Sep. 6th, 2007 03:29 pm (UTC)
You Are Not Alone.

Change sucks. It makes me anxious, miserable, and depressed. I freak out in all directions and move every which way except forward. We understand and love you and you're totally normal (well, in this regard, otherwise, not so much :*)
tripartite
Sep. 6th, 2007 03:46 pm (UTC)
You can't step in the same river twice.
"The only thing constant is change."
Heraclitus
slave_pug
Sep. 6th, 2007 05:26 pm (UTC)
Change can really suck. How is that for philosophical? *smile

The Universe does not require us to be happy or at peace with changes that occur. Regardless of our feelings or response, change is going to happen.

The choice then, is to acknowledge the change and continue to live one’s life, or get stuck wallowing in the past while the rest of the world moves on. This is not to say we can not grieve or mourn the change: that is a natural part of life as well. The challenge is to ensure the grief does not keep you from moving on with your own life and opening yourself up to new opportunities for adventure and growth.

Respectfully,
~ pug
mmatthew
Sep. 6th, 2007 05:36 pm (UTC)
My theory is that the reason all these smart, successful people had all these great things to say about change was to remind themselves that it was a good thing becauce deep down inside they think change sucks too. Monkeys HATE change and thats no different for we of the hairless variety. That's just how we're programmed. Humans are great at finding patterns and extrapolating results but once something fucks with our pattern we get wiggy. Believe me I know, last six months have been nothing but shitty shitty change. And of course now that I'm almost through the worst of it I can see how all those smart, hairless monkeys where right about how change is a good thing but ya it sure didn't feel like it for a long time.

Stick close to your friends and let them be there for you while you get through this, that's the only advice I can give you, it's what saved my ass in the end.

Take care man.
willowrrain
Sep. 6th, 2007 08:40 pm (UTC)
I can relate.
Feel free to join me at the cloth and wire mommy for a bit.

feyrieprincess
Sep. 6th, 2007 11:04 pm (UTC)
"Damn you're cryptic"

-Adrienne G. Feyrieprincess
705_468_560
Sep. 6th, 2007 11:55 pm (UTC)
When one door closes, another door opens. It is always a shame that the hallway in between is so dark.

You can get through this.
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