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I just read in writing posted to a national website that a friend of mine is dying of cancer. He has been told that he has months to live.

He is one of our literary gems, with enough wit and fervor to fill a thousand shoes.

I don't know how to react to this piece of news. And I don't know what to write to him. I highly doubt he reads, or even knows about this journal.

But I love spending time with him. And teasing him. And mixing words and philosophies with him.

I highly recommend his book to all, and his series of columns at Leatherpage.com. I think he would be pleased knowing a few more people have enjoyed his words.


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May. 13th, 2005 01:02 am (UTC)
May. 13th, 2005 04:35 am (UTC)
So sorry, dear. i'll check out the page.
May. 13th, 2005 01:53 pm (UTC)
Damn that sucks
Yeah I'm gonna have to check that out BM that really sucks they always take the good ones.

May. 13th, 2005 02:09 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to note another loss.

His last column I find quite moving.
May. 13th, 2005 03:04 pm (UTC)
Cancer sucks. And I say that with venom and hate in my heart.

I'm so sorry about your friend. The first thing I thought is that "months to live" is never a guarantee -- he could surprise you, he could have years, you never know. But I don't want to be polyanna here. Of course you should say goodbye.

Write him a letter. Say what you want to say, say what you just said. Just let him know you're thinking of him.

May. 13th, 2005 06:55 pm (UTC)

Tell him you're dismayed to hear the news but found his last column remarkable. Ask if he's up for phone calls.

When my mom was dying of a melanoma, phone calls were essential. Often they were brief, but always -- always -- they provided contact and comfort.

If there comes a time when he can't handle phone calls (he'll at some point get too sick for them), see if there's someone in his caregiving circles who can take your call and rely the message that you're thinking of him. That not only helps him but those closest to him, to know he's not forgotten in his sickest days.

Good luck, OK?
May. 13th, 2005 08:11 pm (UTC)
I don't even know Robert personally but I plan to write and tell him how wonderful his last column is. Hell, I'll probably print it out and forward it to everyone.

May. 14th, 2005 12:12 am (UTC)
I've only read the book, but found it one of the best written things out there. This is awful.
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May. 17th, 2005 04:08 pm (UTC)
Re: Sad News
Oh fuck. Oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck.

Thank you for letting me know. Shit.
May. 17th, 2005 04:19 pm (UTC)
Re: Sad News
Do you have an actual announcement that went out?
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