I'm seeing Black Snake Moan tonight.
A friend said, "I dare you to not wantto go and have kinky sex after seeing it." LOL

lovely....and I was told only a movie tonight. LOL

MUST....
BEHAVE....
WILLPOWER....
FLEETING!

mia and I are really wanting to see that movie... looks excellent

Next time I see you, remind me to show you an acupuncture point for headache that I use.

Thank you for turning me on to this movie. Sadly I've had my nose to the ground so long I'd missed its arrival.

hmmm

We went to Blacksnake this weekend too, but I had a really different reaction to the movie. Yes indeed, the posters are hot, really f-ing hot. There's even one visually hot shot of Ricci sleeping, having wrapped herself in chains. But seeing it in context of the plot ... not so hot for me. The Ricci character is tormented by flashbacks of sex abuse & compulsively acting out in a way that endangers her life & makes her deeply unhappy. She's a broken, suffering woman. So as it turned out, it wasn't hot to me or to any of the kinky people I went with.

That said, we all loved the movie. We thought it was a stunning, fabulous portrayal of abuse survivors & the PTSD & compulsive behaviors that come from abuse. We cheered her on during that wonderful supermarket scene with the mother. Samuel L Jackson is da man, hands down. We all want the soundtrack. But turned on ... it was all too real to go there for any of us, even those of us who aren't abuse survivors.

Not bringing this up to call anyone's response "right" or "wrong" ... just interesting to note how different we all are in our kink & in our perceptions. I think it was harder for me to separate the iconic BDSM "hawt sex chained chick" bits from the plot line (ordinarily I'd think "girl chained to radiator = good times.") What did you think of the bits that made me go to the Not Hot place?

Ahhh I see ... I didn't read "camp" except in the posters - total pulp fiction genre campy illustration, which I loooove. But in the film itself for the most part the characters struck me as too believable & fleshed out for me it to read as camp & I wasn't able to strip the images of context to access the hawt. So yeah, I can see why I'd go to a more literal place based on that. Also, I've heard too many firsthand descriptions of survivor flashback experiences that sound JUST like that, so that bit was chilling.

Yes, I do see the Daddy thing. I didn't until you mentioned it because I don't play that way, but I do see it now. And I think this gets us into other ways people differ in SM. I experience some kinds of D/s & SM differently from things that turn me in a more traditional sense; it's all sensual or erotic, but some things are head sex as opposed to genital sex. D/s for me can be really intimate & exciting without being sexual in a genital wanna fuck way.

I can certainly see the Jackson character is a great Daddy role model. He takes care of her & he's 100% a safe place for a girl like her. He never has sex with her and he refuses to let her use him to act out in her compulsions, but that also takes it out of the "hawt sex" realm for me. To my eye there was an energy between them but he guided it into a place that was emotionally safe for both of them, which I guess also to my eye also makes him a really good Daddy for that kind of girl.

Wow ... judging by everyone's reactions, i guess this needs to be high on my list. To be honest, i hadn't eve heard of it. *hangs head* Though, also judging by comments, i had better bring "special company" or make sure my Hitachi is close at hand for after. ;)

On another note, gimme a call, dude! i have a question for you. *pokes and runs*

Wasn't going to see it, but I might have to consider it now! It'll have to come after "Zodiac," though, which is top on my list right now.

I finally saw the film last night and, while I liked it, it left me sad and really down.
This movie is so NOT something that would get me wanting kinky sex. The film is not about about kinky sex. It's about childhood sex abuse and it's emotional scar on a person. It's about sexual dysfunction and betrayal of family, friends and the self. It's about one man deciding to fix another and then deciding, sanely and rightfully, that that's not his job to fix - and that his attempt to do so was a wrongly placed desire to fix an irrepairable past.
Many people, especially women, who are hypersexualized in their desire do not operate under conscious choice but rather from a place of damage and early conditioning. Yet we live in a society that in many ways exoticizes and idolized this destructive residue of damage as 'hawt'.

It is a film that can provoke deep discussion around one's volition in sexual expression and that's good.

What warmed my heart was the courtship between the older couple as a sane and mature counterpoint to self destruction.

The mother character was just bone chilling. And that such response and neglect of one's own child's sexual abuse is common and daily, that's worth a discussion.

What a depressing film. I had to go home and watch CSI to shake it off and it still slimed me.