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An open letter to stupid behavior.

NOTE - This is a rant. This is not PC. It might not make me friends. I'm posting it anyway.

Another year, another opportunity to rant and rave about the same thing. Last year, in the months leading up to Leather Retreat, I wrote a post deploring a certain behavior pattern observed on the event's community website. You see, this event, and several like it, offer up a community system that allows attendees to post and browse profiles, make play dates, host parties, and other cool social networking opportunities.

It's an awesome system.

One of the profile browser's features is to view a list of who posted or changed their profiles most recently. The most recent comes at the top of the list. Due to the immediateness, this feature is what I suspect to be the most viewed page on the system. Every day, most attendees check this list to see if their friends are coming, or if there is someone new and cool that they want to meet.

Which is great! Until attention whores abuse the privilege.

I wrote about this last year under a friend's only locked post. Those on my friends list can read the original here.

With Dark Odyssey Winter Fire quickly approaching, the people who inspired last year's post are doing it again. So now I take this to a wider audience.

There is a group of individuals who together find it necessary year after year after unbelievable year to ensure that their profiles are always on the top of the list. They go into their profile and change something - a space, a period, maybe even nothing... and that way their profile is on the top once again.

And. It. Drives. Me. Mad.

Does this really work? Are you enjoying an overabundance of play partners because they saw your profiles up on top??? I mean, is there a social class system in place here where only those on top of the Recent Profiles page are cool and worthy of play, and others down below are not? I certainly haven't experienced this... I'm certainly not complaining about the amount of action I've received at past events. But who knows? Maybe I'm missing the boat! Maybe by not ensuring my place at the top of the list I'm a giant loser who is SOOOOOO pathetic that my profile is 2-hours out of date!!! Oh no! I'M NOT COOL BECAUSE I'M NOT THE MOST RECENT PROFILE ON THE LIST!!!!! I must commit sepuku!!!!!! Aieeeee it hurts!!!

Oh wait. That's right. I don't endlessly change my profile because I actually have a life.



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Jan. 27th, 2009 05:00 pm (UTC)
For what it's worth, I confronted one of them (who happens to be a friend of mine) last year or the year before, gently, and he said that he did it because it made it easier to see which of the other profiles were new since he'd last checked--that way, any user names above his on the list were obviously new. Amusingly, I see that he is now ridiculing people for doing exactly what he used to do. :)
Jan. 27th, 2009 05:29 pm (UTC)
One thing I've noticed about this issue, is a lot of these people are either real "newbies" or semi "newbies" who are just so excited about EVERYTHING! and feel like they are the first to discover all of these wonderful,exciting,and crazy experiences! Every day they think of something else they like or dislike... Really, this lifestyle attracts a lot of attention whores, many who don't realize that they are attention whores, until they start to receive a lot of attention. (Yes, I was one of those) For some people it's just so thrilling at first that it takes over their lives...
Jan. 27th, 2009 05:42 pm (UTC)
If this were due to the exuberance of someone new to the scene, I would not have an issue with it at all. The group of people I am referring to have been doing this for YEARS. They go to almost every Dark Odyssey and Leather Retreat event, and do this every single time.

No, they are not newbies. They have years of experience, if you believe their profiles.
Jan. 27th, 2009 05:58 pm (UTC)
In these cases, I think they are the people who are legends in their own minds...
Jan. 28th, 2009 02:16 am (UTC)
Sounds like a challenge to me. Write a Greasemonkey script to drop the worst offenders to the bottom of the list. Shouldn't be too hard.
Jan. 28th, 2009 02:59 am (UTC)
It should be changed so that only newly registered profiles appear at the top. There will be plenty of other things left to rant about, I'm sure :)

Jan. 28th, 2009 11:48 am (UTC)
Crabs don't feel time passing...we ride tides...
Jan. 29th, 2009 01:00 am (UTC)
I saw someone wearing that at Arisia! Mighty cute.
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