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An open letter to stupid behavior.

NOTE - This is a rant. This is not PC. It might not make me friends. I'm posting it anyway.

Another year, another opportunity to rant and rave about the same thing. Last year, in the months leading up to Leather Retreat, I wrote a post deploring a certain behavior pattern observed on the event's community website. You see, this event, and several like it, offer up a community system that allows attendees to post and browse profiles, make play dates, host parties, and other cool social networking opportunities.

It's an awesome system.

One of the profile browser's features is to view a list of who posted or changed their profiles most recently. The most recent comes at the top of the list. Due to the immediateness, this feature is what I suspect to be the most viewed page on the system. Every day, most attendees check this list to see if their friends are coming, or if there is someone new and cool that they want to meet.

Which is great! Until attention whores abuse the privilege.

I wrote about this last year under a friend's only locked post. Those on my friends list can read the original here.

With Dark Odyssey Winter Fire quickly approaching, the people who inspired last year's post are doing it again. So now I take this to a wider audience.

There is a group of individuals who together find it necessary year after year after unbelievable year to ensure that their profiles are always on the top of the list. They go into their profile and change something - a space, a period, maybe even nothing... and that way their profile is on the top once again.

And. It. Drives. Me. Mad.

Does this really work? Are you enjoying an overabundance of play partners because they saw your profiles up on top??? I mean, is there a social class system in place here where only those on top of the Recent Profiles page are cool and worthy of play, and others down below are not? I certainly haven't experienced this... I'm certainly not complaining about the amount of action I've received at past events. But who knows? Maybe I'm missing the boat! Maybe by not ensuring my place at the top of the list I'm a giant loser who is SOOOOOO pathetic that my profile is 2-hours out of date!!! Oh no! I'M NOT COOL BECAUSE I'M NOT THE MOST RECENT PROFILE ON THE LIST!!!!! I must commit sepuku!!!!!! Aieeeee it hurts!!!

Oh wait. That's right. I don't endlessly change my profile because I actually have a life.



Jan. 23rd, 2009 04:14 pm (UTC)
Oh, I don't at all think the site should be changed at all. Idiots clamoring for attention should have every opportunity to be revealed for who they are.

And they deserve to be written about, too.
Jan. 23rd, 2009 04:30 pm (UTC)

Why not name (user)names?

I'm a firm believer in public humiliation.

Jan. 27th, 2009 05:46 pm (UTC)
(raises hand, vounteering to be humiliated)
Jan. 23rd, 2009 05:48 pm (UTC)

It sounds like want to use the feature for what it was likely intended for -- to see which friends and acquaintances (and "new meat"!) have registered and are coming to the event.

I think you should contact the event's organizers and webmaster/mistress (and maybe attach copies of your relevant posts) and suggest that they change it so that that part of the site displays the profiles of those newly registered for the event, not profiles that are newly edited. It sounds easily code-able, and would truly make this a useful feature for all, instead of just a toy for the neurotically insecure.

Jan. 23rd, 2009 07:18 pm (UTC)
No... I really feel like changing it would do us a disservice. Giving the intelligent access to the knowledge that these people are so obsessed with their self-image that they must keep themselves on the top of the list all the time comes in really handy when you are figuring out who you want to interact with.

That was a really long sentence, but I think the gist is there.
Jan. 23rd, 2009 07:28 pm (UTC)

stupid behavior... rant... might not make me friends... I'm posting it anyway... rant and rave... abuse the privilege... And. It. Drives. Me. Mad. ...

There should be a name for this, something like the Stockholm Syndrome: people who have a vested interest in not changing things that annoy them, simply so they can continue complaining about it.

Oh, that's right -- you're Jewish. ;)

Jan. 23rd, 2009 07:51 pm (UTC)


/me explodez
Jan. 26th, 2009 03:00 am (UTC)
got it in one!